A Touching Story

Occasionally in this line of work, you come across stories that touch your heart. Actually, more than sometimes, but this one is particularly touching.

Last spring a lovely young Bride contacted me to talk about her wedding. We met and talked about all of her floral plans. She was young, vibrant and seemed very much in love with her fiancé. The consultations were going along fabulously and then this young bride said she wanted to do the ceremony in March, but the reception would not be until July. I have to say, this was a first. As the southern woman that I am, I was raised not to ask personal questions. So although I found this different, I didn’t say anything. As I worked with the family toward the approaching wedding date, I realized that the Father of the Bride had recently been diagnosed with ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis), which is often referred to as “Lou Gehrig’s Disease.” It’s a progressive neurodegenerative disease that affects nerve cells in the brain. My heart went out to this family, as I have a brother with Multiple Sclerosis and a cousin that we lost to ALS.

It turned out to be a lovely wedding. The bride’s father was able to accompany his daughter down the aisle in a wheel chair. She was truly happy to have the two most important men in her life there on her big day. Unfortunately, She lost her father the following month.

This young woman was truly exceptional. With today’s media, there’s an unspoken competitive drive that makes Brides want to out-do each other, demanding center stage… but this particular woman put things into perspective. She realized that yes, her wedding was very important, but it wasn’t just about her. It was about family, and love, and being able to share it with people who were important to her.

Working in the wedding industry, I have to admit, I love a big wedding… but my biggest advice to Brides is don’t lose perspective. Of course, you want a gorgeous wedding, but give priority to family and love. When everything gets crazy and you’re frantic over wedding details, don’t lose focus. Don’t be too concerned over wedding favors or where to seat Aunt Rosie during the reception. Slow down and breathe. Look around at your family and the man that you love, and realize those people are what’s most important.